You might find this resonates
Finding it hard to switch off from work mode
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Your self worth is entirely dependent on professional achievements
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You panic when someone asks 'what do you do for fun?'
You're not sure of who you are outside of work
You constantly ask 'is this the right path for me?'
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You worry about making the 'wrong' choices that will lead to 'failure'
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You have high standards but often question what success really means
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Work often leaks into family time and is impacting personal relationships
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Sleep issues
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You can recognise signs of burnout such as brain fog, decision fatigue and not feeling enjoyment in life
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You're constantly measuring yourself against peers achievements or life's milestones
Here's what's really happening
Overworking isn't about poor boundaries or being 'too passionate' about what you do.
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It's often a nervous system response - work becomes the place you feel safe, competent, and in control.
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Over time, internal rules develop:
'If I stay busy, I'm safe.'
'If I achieve, I'm worthy.'
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When work becomes your stabiliser, rest feels dangerous. Slowing down feels irresponsible. And your personal life becomes organised around recovery rather than enjoyment.
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The path forward isn't what you think
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Most people assume they need better time management or stronger boundaries (or to work less)
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But you can't discipline your way out of a dysregulated nervous system.
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Real change happens when you understand why your body equates busyness with safety and teach it something different.
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This work isn't about doing less. It's about shifting from anxiety-driven achievement to passion-driven work - so ambition becomes sustainable instead of depleting.
How I work
My approach
I work with high achievers through online or in-person therapy, focusing on:
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Nervous system regulation - Understanding why your body equates busyness with safety and teaching it that rest is safe
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Identity beyond achievement - Discovering who you are when you're not working or producing
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Values-led decision-making - Learning to make choices from clarity rather than anxiety or comparison
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Sustainable ways of working - Building a relationship with work that energizes you instead of depleting you
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This isn't about working less or losing your ambition. It's about working from a passion-driven, values-led place rather than an anxiety-driven one- so work supports life, instead of replacing it.
